By Cindy Martin
I recently saw a quote that went something like, “Once you realize how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.” Such a simple but powerful statement that struck me hard and led to these few important questions…
Who are the “takers” in our lives? The people who always accept your help, but never offer to return the favor. The ones who will talk non-stop about what’s going on in their life, but never bother to ask what’s going on in yours.
Who are the people we make excuses for? The ones who don't show up for you. The ones who poke fun at you for being you. The ones who never build you up.
Why do we keep giving discounts to these people who haven’t earned them?
It's okay to be a people pleaser. It's really satisfying to hear someone say with genuine appreciation, "That was so kind of you," or "I always feel better after talking to you." But it's also okay to say no. Your time and energy are valuable. Don't squander your resources on every request you receive or get involved in something just to please everyone else, especially if your heart isn't in it. It's a tricky balance sometimes, but you're the only one who can decide whether or not the scales are tipping too far in either direction.
Yes, relationships - personal, professional, whatever - take work and it’s perfectly fine to give, but don’t lose yourself, your identity and your pride just to remain top of mind to someone. You won’t like yourself for it. Spend your time and energy nurturing those relationships that make you feel loved and valued.
Be a blessing to others, but don’t forget to be a blessing to yourself.